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Bob (guest)
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| 06/30/2006 2:44 PM |
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| I read in the Erickson Tribune an article about the internet and am giving it a try in an attempt to solve a personal issue. Maybe someone here could help.
I’m a 68-year-old single Catholic man in perfect physical and even mental health. I have degrees from two famous universities. For most of my life I've been a writer, deeply interested in the interaction between culture and economics. I wrote two books on that subject. I'm fascinated by the "culture war." I had my own writing company, and was on my way to millionaire status when I was virtually wiped out four years ago by the technology bust. No big deal, really. In some ways that was a blessing. I took up driving a school bus to weather the storm, and found I loved the kids. But I was totally alone in an unfamiliar city near Chicago. I have enough income to survive, although not for luxuries. I have a couple of stocks that might eventually pull me back to where I was.
Here’s the problem. I want to get out of my current situation but don’t know how to do it. I could look for a different job and have no objection to that but fear that emotionally I’d be jumping from the frying pan into the fire. What I want to find is some place I could be helpful to other people and live fairly cheaply. There are all kinds of things I could do, especially when I’m so healthy. I think I’m easy to deal with and to talk to, although, as a writer, I may be a bit of an introvert. I can’t expect anyone to offer an instant solution. But are there any suggestions on how I could go about it? I’d be very grateful. Bob |
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jwc (guest)
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| 07/11/2006 11:17 PM |
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Bob,
I hope by now -- two weeks after you posted your dilemma -- that you've gotten some help. If not, a few thoughts.
One, if you found something you love -- being around the kids -- it would be a shame to give it up. Most people don't do what they love and the world is the worse for it.
Two, the fear of jumping from the frying pan in to the fire may be just that: fear. In fact, judging from what happened to you before -- losing all your money -- I'm guessing you have a fear of success, and have a pattern of sabotaging yourself. That is, a subconscious belief that you don't deserve to succeed. I've been there myself.
That kind of issue goes way back, and needs to be pulled out by the roots. My own experience with conventional therapy (three different times) just skimmed the surface. Better to try hypnotherapy or what I've had a lot of success with, Holotropic Breathing. Look it up online. That's the fast lane to letting go of old rubbish, and it sounds like that's what's tripping you up.
Three, you probably ARE an introvert, and there's nothing wrong with that. I tend to isolate, too. But there is a deep human need to connect, and it sounds like you're feeling it. Get out and meet people. Go to a senior center. Join a Y. Go to church. Volunteer. Haunt a Starbucks, smile at a stranger and say hello.
Four, give your spirituality a check-up. If you don't have a spiritual practice -- whatever works best for you -- it's no wonder you feel alone.
Five, if you're one of those people who intellectualizes everything, remember: there's a difference between intellect (the mind) and intelligence (the heart). And if you're looking for a cerebral, left-brained explanation, read David R. Hawkins' "Power vs. Force."
Six, you're asking the right questions. If you start doing "the work" of growth and change, you'll be amazed at how a seemingly indifferent world will support you.
I wish you all the best,
JWC
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carrie deters
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| 11/02/2006 9:10 AM |
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Bob,
Are you still writing? Have you found some fulfillment since your last post?
I volunteer with the youth at my church. It's quite rewarding!
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HarmonEC (guest)
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| 01/29/2008 8:25 PM |
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The reality of the people in my church and all of the people in government who are participating in Greed and Corruption, while professing faith in god in order to get votes, led me to accept reality and reject faith. My philosophy replaced religion and includes that of Sartre, Bertrand Russell.Camus and R D Laing. That means I accept my responsibility to all of the other people in the world.
During the 60's I saw real changes in civill rights resulting from my effort efforts but now our government appears drowned in filth. How can I learn to accept this? |
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